Bernadette - I am sorry to read of your desperation. Such things can be a significant issue for buyers, and sellers, alike and do need to be resolved.
Responsibility for holding the lease/counterpart rests with the landlord/tenant but it is appreciated deeds can go missing, get lost etc. If that's what has happened here then updating the register to remove the noted lease will rely on what evidence you can provide to demonstrate that the noted lease is 'no more' as in the interest created no longer exists as X, Y and X happened for example.
If you can demonstrate that in law then there is always hope that the register can be updated. The buyer will not complete if they are buying with a mortgage in my experience so very much a case of your relying on your legal rep to explain how the law works re such leases and how they can be proven to have been 'determined' depending on the facts you can provide -
Practice guide 26: leases – determination - GOV.UK