Wendy - I'm sorry to read of the issues you are facing although there's very little we can usefully advise you on other than this is something to get legal advice on.
Whilst we can provide the
registered information to confirm the registered extent/general boundaries and
guidance on boundaries, this is very much something only you and the neighbour can resolve. If you can't then it's perhaps legal action you need to consider hence the legal advice suggested.
Planning issues inc retrospective permission is a matter for the local authority/planning department. We have no role in such procedures
If you are looking for wider online advice then there are forums such as Garden Law or Money Saving Expert where such matters are aired and shared and which may offer some help as to what has worked for others
But the properties, boundaries and neighbour are all unique to you so it is always legal advice that's recommended to ensure it's focussed on your unique set of circumstances